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I just don’t understand destination weddings

My boyfriend’s friend got engaged a couple weeks ago and they want to get married in Mexico. Sounds fun, but they asked Aaron to be a groomsman and so now I’m worried we won’t be able to afford it. Who knows how much we will have saved in 2 years? We want to start settling down fast once school is done and we both have jobs and this means saving for down payments and our own wedding.

Here’s the problems I see with destination weddings (but maybe some see them as bonuses):

-you automatically exclude friends and family members who can’t travel abroad for various reasons (money, passport issues, health reasons, etc)

-the people you spend your happy day with are just those who can afford it, and might not be the ones you actually want to spend it with.

-unless you’re from the area or you have special ties to that particular tropical destination, there’s no emotional bond between you and that place. I personally want to get married in the area I’m currently living because I grew up around here and we have lots of friends and family here.

-all tropical beach wedding photos are basically the same-newlyweds swooning in front of the ocean, bare feet in the sand, wind whipping clothes all over, tiki lights, etc etc. they’re pretty but hardly original.

-why would you want your inlaws around during the honeymoon? It’s supposed to be just the happy couple. I personally would not be able to enjoy myself if I had my mom or my boyfriend’s mom hovering around all the time. Wonderful ladies but I don’t want them interfering.

-pretty pricey (although weddings here can be pricey too if you want them that way) and you often have to throw another reception party when you get home to see all the people you excluded from coming south with you.

-I just feel like it’s a fad and a flashy social status symbol that doesn’t really reflect the point of a wedding. A wedding for me is a celebration of two people who promise to love each other for a long time and who want to share their joy with friends and family. When you exclude people based on finances or health, it’s like telling them they weren’t important enough for you and you’re indifferent about them being a part of your day. Which is really hurtful and wrong, I think, unless you’re going to foot the bill for those who can’t make it.

I mean, sure I would love to go to Mexico, but there are other things that we have to think about first.

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Excellent weekend

It encompassed:

  • returning a course’s worth of books to the library via bicycle-what a nice feeling!
  • tubing
  • no sunburns because I applied sunscreen like crazy! YAY!
  • Very loud thunderstorm. Many close booms and a power flicker, all long after we got off the river. YES YES YES
  • Reading half of the last Bourne book. This is good because I like finishing a series and they were just ok books so I’m looking forward to moving on to the Outlander series.
  • Ice cream, Popcorn, salmon, peaches, and fresh carrots, potatoes, and beets from the garden (August is my favourite month for fresh fruits and veggies because all my favourite foods are ready for my noms)
  • Planning a dinosaur-themed vacation road trip
  • Not doing any schoolwork.

I am now going to finish an excellent weekend by reading some more.

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I absolutely rank this as one of the big Moments in my life as a person who actively engages with text.  That is, this is a movie that you either decide to just GO WITH or you peace out as soon as you see a crowd of medieval jousting fans jamming to “We Will Rock You.” You CANNOT just passively take it in.  You MUST make a choice, and either accept or reject its wacky nature.  

I, obviously, decided that HELL YES was I into this and have never regretted it.

A TOAST TO ALL WHO ARE INTO A KNIGHT’S TALE UNIRONICALLY, particularly if you’re also an English history/language geek.

My only regret is that Chaucer’s costume did not remain just Paul Bettany’s skin.

This is the best movie, everyone else can go home

AS WELL AS HISTORICAL EPICNESS, THIS FILM HAS ONE OF THE BEST SOUNDTRACKS EVER ASSEMBLED.
QUEEN! DAVID BOWIE! AND THE EPIC THIN LIZZY!
IT IS ROCK N ROLL GOODNESS FROM START TO FINISH!

(Source: scamanders, via sslibrarianship)