My boyfriend’s friend got engaged a couple weeks ago and they want to get married in Mexico. Sounds fun, but they asked Aaron to be a groomsman and so now I’m worried we won’t be able to afford it. Who knows how much we will have saved in 2 years? We want to start settling down fast once school is done and we both have jobs and this means saving for down payments and our own wedding.
Here’s the problems I see with destination weddings (but maybe some see them as bonuses):
-you automatically exclude friends and family members who can’t travel abroad for various reasons (money, passport issues, health reasons, etc)
-the people you spend your happy day with are just those who can afford it, and might not be the ones you actually want to spend it with.
-unless you’re from the area or you have special ties to that particular tropical destination, there’s no emotional bond between you and that place. I personally want to get married in the area I’m currently living because I grew up around here and we have lots of friends and family here.
-all tropical beach wedding photos are basically the same-newlyweds swooning in front of the ocean, bare feet in the sand, wind whipping clothes all over, tiki lights, etc etc. they’re pretty but hardly original.
-why would you want your inlaws around during the honeymoon? It’s supposed to be just the happy couple. I personally would not be able to enjoy myself if I had my mom or my boyfriend’s mom hovering around all the time. Wonderful ladies but I don’t want them interfering.
-pretty pricey (although weddings here can be pricey too if you want them that way) and you often have to throw another reception party when you get home to see all the people you excluded from coming south with you.
-I just feel like it’s a fad and a flashy social status symbol that doesn’t really reflect the point of a wedding. A wedding for me is a celebration of two people who promise to love each other for a long time and who want to share their joy with friends and family. When you exclude people based on finances or health, it’s like telling them they weren’t important enough for you and you’re indifferent about them being a part of your day. Which is really hurtful and wrong, I think, unless you’re going to foot the bill for those who can’t make it.
I mean, sure I would love to go to Mexico, but there are other things that we have to think about first.